“One of the laws of Allah is when someone is implementing what they can with what they have and they have intention to do more, Allah makes it possible for them to do more.” — Sh. Abdul Nasir Jangda
in shakartum laazeedannakum wala
If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]
Surat Ibrahim 14 :7
A lot of people like to complain but they don’t want to do anything about their situation.
“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.”
– Colin Powell
Realize you have a choice.It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to say no to someone you love. It’s okay to say no to a friend. It’s okay to say no to a parent or child. It’s okay to say no to a job or relationship. It’s okay to say no to sexual advances. And it’s okay to say no to a person who’s romantically interested in you. Even if it hurts someone’s feelings, even if you disappoint people, even if you’re judged and ostracized — it’s okay to say no to anything and anyone that causes you pain or makes you uncomfortable. You’re allowed to put yourself first. You’re allowed to set limits and boundaries. And you deserve to make your happiness and wellbeing a priority. You don’t ever have to settle for something or someone that doesn’t feel right. And you definitely don’t have to compromise yourself for the sake of making other people happy. You have to take care of yourself, and if that means saying no, it’s more than okay. Alhamdulillah!
Back stabbed, disappointed, judged, dissed and the plethora of words that come from similar meaning of words is THE DEFINITION of our lives these days. A quick under or incomplete analysis will lead most of us to think “that is a pretty sad life” – I beg to differ because that is just one side of the coin.
Vulnerability or as I call it “leap of Faith” is something synonymous to many believing muslims (not sure -> make isteqara -> extremely scared to death but then you end up doing it anyway *read before marriage drill here-regardless of arranged/love*).
Personally vulnerability coupled with tawwakul has blessed me with amazing friendships, strong relations, happiness, gratitude and contentment and much more to encapsulate in a single blog post.
I leave you with this thought “When we prevent ourselves from being vulnerable we miss out on a lot of good stuff along with the bad stuff”. Here’s to loving with our whole hearts even though there is no guarantee – To being Vulnerable and Happy! 🙂
If you are reading this do let me know if you are a vulnerable person and if you are happy or sad being so.
Ibn Rajab Al-Hanbali said, “the fruit of tawakkul is the acceptance of Allah’s decree. Whoever leaves his affairs to Allah and then is accepting of what he is given has truly relied on Allah. Al-Hassan and others among the salaf defined tawakkul as ridhaa (acceptance).” (Jami’ Al-’Uloom wa Al-Hikam : A Commentary on 50 Major Hadith)
“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good; I was actually being re-directed to something better. You must convince your heart that whatever Allah has decreed is most appropriate and most beneficial for you.”
– Imam al-Ghazali